Sick of using that Secret Cherry Malaysia and realized that you have gone too far into the abyss of pure sexual degeneracy, you decided that maybe you are really lonely and need not only a partner that looks hot or nice, but also somebody that you can see and care about as an actual human being. Even if you end up being friends with benefits, you still want both yourself and them to be at least genuine friends.
So now you are in the lookout for somebody you may have a crush on. This is where first impressions count. How do you make sure that you don’t end up stepping on the wrong foot and mess up the starting line? How can you not end up looking and behaving like somebody with a creepy or unnerving demeanor?
Snap back to reality
Some people perceive romance and sex based on fiction. Books, TV shows, movies and animations are the mediums that they may get attached to when it comes to romance. To each their own, but regardless, there is one universal rule that they should be aware of.
Fiction does NOT reflect reality no matter how accurate the portrayals are. You mustn’t use it as a guide unless it is not only appropriate but you are doing this to joke around, you and your mate are already friends and they positively get the references. Never let the pristine portrayal of romance and sex get to you.
Anything can happen when written on paper. On paper, you are a god controlling how you want love to proceed between two characters. In reality, your own personality and behaviour dictate the outcome of the developing relationship. Once you mess up, it is hard to impossible to fix what you just made.
Love and sex do not come to you in a snap. You will have to do the following to make them move.
Learn how to socialize
If you are somebody that has been sitting in their own room or home for a long time and haven’t talked to anybody, you best pick up your phone or carry your legs to a library and start learning how to socialize, develop friendships and eventually love. Especially in the field of romance, the knowledge not only ensures you know the correct way to talk and act around your potential mate, but also gives you a boost of confidence to do so.
Don’t force yourself to be somebody you aren’t as you will only embarrass yourself or invite a disaster. Just speak and act as yourself, but know your boundaries based on your current relationship status with your mate. If you see that they feel uncomfortable with you, stop and apologize.
If you have one or a few buddies that went or are having a romantic or sexual relationship before, you can seek their advice for more personal information, something that might not be covered by books or articles too. Don’t take every word to heart. If their advice sounds genuinely doubtful, don’t follow.
One more note, don’t trust social media. You might be able to get good advice from there, but you can never be sure. Just walk away from them for better sources of knowledge about partnerships